Living childless has it's ups and downs.
The hardest part: friends with kids.
We adjust our lives to work around their schedules and babysitter availability.
We go to birthday parties.
We buy birthday presents and Christmas presents.
We adjust our lives to be part of theirs and their children's.
It's not always reciprocated.
Yes, our lives are much different, but does that mean that we're too different to adjust?
Often times people say, "You won't understand until you have kids of your own."
That may very well be true, but that's no fault of my own.
We've spent so much of our lives sad, longing for kids of our own.
We've spent so much financially and emotionally on having kids that I don't think it's fair.
We're taking a break from the heartache of infertility and celebrating what we have.
And what we have is a life without kids.
Why shouldn't we celebrate the life we have?
Yes, we would love kids but that's not an option right now.
Is it too much to ask that friends be willing to adjust into our lives as well?
We spend a lot of time celebrating with our friends with kids, why not have them celebrate with us?
I'm not asking people drop everything and meet our every request, but we're busy too.
I'm working two jobs (trying to start a third) and still have time to ask how little Suzy is doing, so isn't it common curtsey to ask how we are as well?
While life with and without children is very different, I think we all need to be willing to adjust.
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